Friday Fun - Not today

It's Friday 

and while I normally post some 

silly pictures, 

a joke or  

an email message, 

today I just can't....

Twelve years ago, 

the love of my life was gone.

In the flash of a gun...

The laughter stopped.

The hugs stopped.

The growing old together stopped.

One thing that didn't stop with death 

is our love.

You don't stop loving someone 

just because they died. 

I am often amazed at comments people make:

"You mean you still love him?"

"Do you really still miss him?"

"Aren't you over that yet?"

Is that not ridiculous???

Obviously these people have never found 

their soul mate. 

 And YES!!! I believe we all have a soul mate. 

Some of us are even lucky enough to find them!

Life is short.

So short!

I see couple's fighting publicly 

and know they love each other.

It hurts me.

Recently one of these couples that had a bitter argument while sitting with one on each side of me. They are no longer a couple...

In the flash of a gun

The laughter stopped.

The hugs stopped.

The growing old together stopped.

......

I went to the funeral home 

..the dreaded funeral home  

There was the wife standing before her husband. Broken hearted, sad, alone...

and I knew, just knew that when she saw me, 

all the memories would come flooding back.

She took a hold of me and said 

"For the last three days 

I have thought of you all day long." 

I told her I knew that. I could feel it.

A strange memory from my husband's funeral, here was this woman whom I barely knew but yet I saw her, standing on the other side of the burial plot during the service. Our eyes kept locking on each other. While I remember very little of the things for the days following my husband's death thru his burial, I remember that. I often wondered why.. Why???? did this burn into my memory???

The day I got the message that her husband was dead, I knew. It was because she would be facing the same thing. I was overwhelmed with memories and thoughts and how people have no idea how to comfort someone in their loss.

With all this said,

PLEASE when you visit someone who has 

lost a person they love, 

DON'T tell them 

YOU know exactly how they feel,  

because You don't!

Don't tell them you know because 

your grandma died

your cat died

You don't know!

None of us know how another person hurts.

Only God knows how we hurt.

When I visit someone 

who has lost a loved one 

or  a friend, 

I simply say

"I am sorry you hurt."

......

Your statement to the grieving may be the only one they remember.

Be kind and of good heart.

......

 

 Now right this moment, send an email, text or call the love of your life.

Tell them them you love them and how much they mean to you.

Don't miss the opportunity!